Every time I hear the phrase “self-care” it makes me cringe. To me the concept means that you have gotten yourself sucked into the American grind and need a big change in priorities and a lot less to do. I’ve been there. I’ll never be there again.
A couple of definitions at a quick glance say this “What is self–care? Self–care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. ”
You know what I call that? I call it “my life” and it should be the biggest part of the pie chart (with whipped cream). How can you become the loving enlightened being you want to be if you are only a little slice of your life’s pie?
I can understand, especially if we have kids, and most of us have jobs, how we get sucked into doing so much that we have to put our own lives on a list but it is so sad and out of order!
I think this is why so many truth-seekers are artists or live some sort of gig life because we just can’t devote that much time to the fakery of most of jobs that eat our lives. Some are lucky enough to have jobs they love and can really be authentic at. That works and those folks are lucky. I agree with Eric Tolle when he says (and I’m paraphrasing) that there are 3 things we can do in every task/moment: enjoy it, accept it, or stop doing it. I’m all for accepting what I cannot change. In small doses.
I sound kind of accusatory in this article I realize and a lot of you will not be able to change your situation for some time. I get that, I bless you for doing what you need to do. I just want you to consider what you are doing and how it might affect your intentions for the future.
All of our truth seeking (which to me is linked if not directly the same as self-care) can be done no matter what else we are doing. Everything begins in heart or mind. We can watch and train our thoughts in any situation and sometimes the worst situations are the best teachers. It’s often harder but life is hard any way you live it unless you have your gratitude, acceptance and your knowledge of oneness in your pocket, and then it’s not so hard no matter where you are.
My real point is that you have every right to choose all of the things you do. As women we have been so conditioned to saying yes when we want to say no (and then ending up with a resentment for it) and for being nice and helpful and it won’t get everyone to love you no matter how hard you try. Getting yourself to love you… that’s the big one and it feels the best. That’s your connection to the universe, to oneness and to the whole kingdom. Be real Be you and Live your Self Care, every day!!